In the first four months of the coronavirus pandemic, domestic violence incidents reported to the police increased by 7%. However, millions of victims don’t report abuse to the police. Why? They fear that they will be unable to prove that they are a victim of abuse. So, how do you prove domestic abuse?

It’s sad to think that society has created a culture that ‘blames’ domestic abuse victims for their situation. It’s a similar scenario with rape. You will often hear comments like ‘they must have done something to deserve it’. If you fear being unable to prove domestic abuse, maybe this stops you from reporting it.

For people on the outside looking in, there’s a perception that it’s ‘easy to prove domestic abuse’. However, not all abuse is physical. There aren’t always tell tale signs that someone is being abused. If the abuse is physical, then yes, theoretically it’s ‘easier’ to prove because there might be bruises or regular, unexplained visits to the hospital.

But even then, not all domestic abuse victims are believed.

Holland Family Law Takes Domestic Abuse Cases Seriously

A woman on a phone call trying to prove domestic abuse.

Holland Family Law takes domestic abuse cases seriously.

We want to make it clear, there’s never an excuse for domestic abuse. We take cases of domestic abuse very seriously. Holland Family Law has a dedicated team of domestic abuse lawyers that are committed to helping protect victims, using the law. 

Your relationship and your home should be a safe place. If it’s not and you have managed to escape the abuse, your next step is to keep your abuser out of your life. To do this, we will do everything we can to prove domestic abuse has taken place. We don’t want you to be in fear of abuse or your life being at risk.

Steps to Take to Prove Domestic Abuse

  • Keep a record of everything
  • Use different labels to separately record various kinds of behaviour – i.e. physical abuse, verbal abuse, coercive control
  • If somebody witnessed the abuse, ask them to provide a written account of what they saw
  • Make a record of what you did after the abuse took place – i.e. reported it to the police, visited the hospital or your GP, saw a counsellor or sought help from a domestic abuse charity
  • Contact a lawyer who can present your evidence to a Court

Proving domestic violence can be challenging. However, taking these steps will provide the evidence you need to demonstrate that you are the victim of abuse.

The best place to start is to gather evidence and keep a record of your abuser’s behaviour. If you are physically attacked, take photos of any injuries you might sustain. If you partner becomes threatening or verbally abusive, try to capture the audio on your phone.

If there is an incident, no matter how ‘small’, keep making a record as it can all be used to show a pattern of behaviour that will help you prove domestic violence.

Keeping records will also be crucial if you don’t get the help you need from the police. Plus, the evidence can be used by Holland Family Law as part of your case at Court. Solid evidence is often the difference between being heard and being ignored.

Equally, your records can serve as proof against any agencies that you sought help from who fail to take action or deny the extent of the problem, whether that’s the police or social services if they end up getting involved.

Taking Action

A woman who has taken action to prove domestic abuse.

Take action to stop domestic abuse.

The best advice we can give you is to take action and make yourself heard to put a stop to the abuse, protecting yourself and your children.

We’re here to help with the legal advice you need to escape your abuser and ensure your future safety. We are discreet, offering reliable advice and support.

You can reach us by phone 0116 436 2170, email – or social media messaging on FacebookInstagram, and LinkedIn. You can also get in touch using our website contact form.

If you are in immediate danger, call 999 or head to your nearest pharmacy and look for an ‘Ask for Ani’ display.